Knuckle Draggers Unite!

I’ve been known to be more of a guy than a girl. Why? Because women have gotten a bad wrap, damn it! And some figure that if you’re not the stereotypical female you’re either too good to be true, or you are a ‘knuckle dragger’ like them. And I did NOT give them that name. It’s what they believe their women see them as. So, the term has become one that men (and some women) unite around and are proud to be called. At least I am.

Women, we’re seen as these fickle, complicated, emotional wrecks (especially on TV). We supposedly want to be pampered one minute only to flip the ‘spastic switch’ and become Miss Independent I-Don’t-Need-Nobody the next minute. Total bull if you ask me, but then again, I’ve seen my share of female goofballs and tend to wonder…

Part of the problem is that as women, we tend to try to get men to ask like us, communicate like us, and understand us. But I read a book a long time ago called “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” and it saved my sanity. I learned not to nag my mate, nor chase him around trying to get him to talk to me when what he needed was to work things out in his own head. The way women help each other is to talk it out. But men don’t do that. Men disappear into their ‘man cave’ and think. Yet we run in there after them trying to get them to talk it out. And sometimes we get burned, not realizing that it’s just the way they are. So let ’em be.

Anyway, back to the guy thing where I’m concerned. If a knuckle dragger is a person who enjoys peace and quiet, content to let the emotional wrecks get bent out of shape without us, then I guess I’m a knuckle dragger. Hell, even my ex had to admit that he was the complainer/nagger in our relationship, which to me, was a big compliment.

So…Knuckle Draggers unite!

Here’s a joke for those women, like me, who enjoy NOT nagging. Enjoy emotional stability instead of half the month PMS’ing and the other half of the month on her period. Find pleasure in NOT adding a million things to the honey-do list. Enjoy equal parts affection and raunch. Think highly of our men (well, when we have one ;D). And who do love being on the receiving end of chivalry and pampering while still maintaining our sense of self at the expense of no one.


A man was riding his Harley along a California beach when suddenly the sky clouded above his head and, in a booming voice, the Lord said, “Because you have tried to be faithful to me in all ways, I will grant you one wish.”

The biker pulled over and said, “Build a bridge to Hawaii so I can ride over anytime I want.”

The Lord said, “Your request is materialistic, think of the enormous challenges for that kind of undertaking; the supports required reaching the bottom of the Pacific and the concrete and steel it would take! It will nearly exhaust several natural resources. I can do it, but it is hard for me to justify your desire for such a thing. Take a little more time and think of something that could possibly help mankind.”

The biker thought about it for a long time. Finally, he said, “Lord, I wish that I and all men could understand women; I want to know how she feels inside, what she’s thinking when she gives me the silent treatment, why she cries, what she means when she says nothing’s wrong, and how I can make a Woman truly happy.”

The Lord replied, “You want that Bridge two lanes or four?”

Big Cats – Love ’em (Jaguars)

I posted this over on the Dynamic Trio website a few days ago and thought I’d share it here (duh!)

If you’ve read my books, such as Jaguar’s Rule, Spirit of the Pryde, Primed to Pounce or Egyptian Voyage, you know I really have a thing for large cats. I don’t mean overweight Garfield types, but lions, tigers, jaguars and the like. I was thinking about my need to schedule my family’s next camping trip to enjoy the great outdoors, and a thought came to mind – what would it be like to run up on one of my favorite animals in the middle of the night? I mean, if he wasn’t after ME, of course ;D

Black Jaguar

Ever wonder what a jaguar sounds like? Well, I’ve got an answer for you. Choose from the several selections on the player below, close your eyes and imagine yourself in the jungles of Belize in the middle of the night…

Strangely enough, the sounds didn’t scare me or make me feel afraid. But after you listen to them, tell me whether they curled your toes! Especially, sound clip number three. Whew!

Love, TJ (a/k/a Big Cat Nutball Extraordinaire)

The Great Outdoors

The weather here has been absolutely scorching. Now I’m SO not the girl who enjoys being baked alive, but I do enjoy getting outside. I don’t get to do it as often as I’d like anymore (somehow those danged responsibilities sometimes get in the way ;D) but I like to walk at lunch time with some of the ladies at the office. The other day when I took this pic it was cloudy out with a bit of a cool breeze as a storm blew in. And it was STILL almost 80 degrees outside! Even with my hair pulled up my poor neck was all sweaty – wasn’t even cute!

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Warning: Entering the ‘No Makeup’ Zone!

Forget New Year’s resolutions (I don’t bother to make them), it’s all about taking care of yourself all year long. Last year was one of the most stressful years of my life, mostly due to my job. And I made a commitment to myself that I would SO not go there again, being worked up and worked over to the point of affecting my health.

I’ve always been a health goofball – I love the outdoors, I like going to the gym, and like taking walks. Not to the point of being a fanatic, but it is important to take care of yourself. Especially if you have kids. Your kids need you to be around for a good long time.

So what are you doing to keep yourself in good health? And if you’re not doing anything, maybe I can help you with that?

First, a good way to work off stress is to play! Do something fun. My game of choice right now is World of WarCraft. Another good way is to get physical. You don’t have to lift a ridiculous amount of weights, or do aerobics until you faint. Just a little stroll about the neighborhood, enjoying the evening breeze is good, too. And it’s even better if you can grab the hand of someone you care about and drag them along ;D


WoW! Literally…

Okay, I am officially a World of Warcraft nutball. I am totally hooked on this blasted game. It’s all my sons fault – he was always asking me to play Halo and Call of Duty and stuff like that, but they held no appeal for me. Then he started harping on me about WarCraft. Of course, I did what most moms do – I looked at him and said, ‘Not interested’ and went back to my writing. Then one day he pulled a whammy on me – “But mom, it’s something we can do together” then blinked those big brown eyes at me. So huffing and sighing I let him install it on my laptop, grumbling about manipulative children and the like.

Then we started playing together, he was on one computer and I was on mine. AND IT WAS A BLAST! Since he’d been playing longer he helped me through getting started, showed me where things were and which monsters to avoid. Then Christmas rolled around and the son who was wrapped up in WarCraft moved on to the games that came with his brand new Xbox 360. But good ole’ mom that I am, I kept WarCrafting.

And by the time the kid came back to the game I was ten levels ahead of him! And now…I’M TWENTY LEVELS AHEAD. Given I don’t do much but work and write, I’ve found myself surrounded by tons of other thirty- and forty-somethings who gather online to play this game and have a good time. It’s like our own little community ;D

This is one of my characters on the Bladefist server. Notice the name? Obviously, she’s got to be a genius to have a name like that! If you’re ever online, come by and say hello! Especially if you’re a fan of my book, CARINIAN’S SEEKER ;D

Happy Friday (xPost)!

Hi all! I don’t have alot to write about because I’m frantically working on three manuscripts all at the same time. One book is the story of Alaina Bixler, the daughter of Carin and Bix. I hadn’t planned to continue the series after the third book (Kenoe’s story, due out in July) but I got an idea in my head that I just couldn’t shake, so it’s in the works. And speaking of Kenoe’s story, the final book cover has been okay’d and it’s now up on the Samhain Publishing coming soon web page.

I’m also working on books for the Pryde sisters from Spirit of the Pryde. They’ve been on hold for a while, but I’m now hot and heavy writing Niah’s story.

The weekend is upon us – woohoo! I just trashed my grill, otherwise I’d be out back running the smoker (yummm!!!). And since we don’t have any family in Colorado, we just hang out together and enjoy the awesome weather with our new puppies, or with my kids’ friends.

And while barbeque is the word of the day on a hot summer day, if you’re a martini kind of gal, I recently got some new recipes that you just might like…

Check out the Fine Living take on Washington Apple Martinis, Blueberry Martinis, Flirt-inis, Passion-tinis, and more!

Finally, Booksigning Pics ;D

I was finally able to get the pictures of the booksigning I did with my good friend, Lise Fuller, back in April. We did it at Beth Anne’s Book Cover in Colorado Springs and it was an absolute blast. We also had a Cobblestone Press author, Diana Bold, join us. It was alot of fun, complete with four different kinds of cake and ice cream. Sigh…life is good ;D

(Part of the screen on the right is pushed off into the black border because of the size of the pics. So, nope, there’s nothing wrong with your computer ;D After folks have had a chance to look at the pics, I’ll move them to a separate page so there are no display issues. In the meantime, enjoy ;D)

By the way, Lise’s fabulous website is HERE

TJ, the lefty, signing at Beth Anne’s Book Corner.
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